Sometimes a reconnection from the past can turn out to affirm what is already known.

Consider a recent experience I had on Facebook.

An ex from when I was… around 20 yrs old, give or take.  Totally crazy for him at that time.

We dated, talked about living together, but it never happened as I wasn’t ready. He moved back home to Dallas. I went to Dallas to visit him – his Mom and sister hated me cuz I was not the girlfriend they wanted for him to date.  He came back to Houston to visit me, brought a friend and friend’s girlfriend, they all stayed with me.  Ex thought it would be “funny” to go through and hide items from friend’s girlfriend’s purse, like she had lost it all.  He hid her items in his car.  She found everything and Ex asked me to take “the hit”, since he was driving back to Dallas with them and he didn’t want the drive to be overly uncomfortable… so I agreed.  Come to find out, when they got back to Dallas, Ex started dating the friend’s girlfriend.  Whadda jerk.

He called several years later, but I was dating someone and not interested.

Well, time has past, and we were kids… everyone makes mistakes and I believe people can truly change for the better… I know I am not the same person I was all those years ago, and I am happy for the changes I have made.  I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt.

So I find him on Facebook and start a conversation.

He is friendly, no mention of his betrayal.  Ok, I can overlook that.  He seems to have done well for himself – owns his own business, has a 21 yr old daughter.  He’s attractive and social, though I discover he has Severe commitment and maturity issues – has been married 5 times, “bragging” that the last 3 were to girls in their mid-20′s.  Ok, Five times and not even 50 yet?  FIVE times in less than 30 years??  FIVE???  And chasing girls the same age range as his own daughter?  Not only Creepy, but Ew.

Well that’s his business, not mine (Thank Goodness!)  And I’m Not looking to hook up, I need to network.  I’m thinking, for “old times sake” that he would be kind enough to share my site with his FB Friends.  I have no pride when it comes to pimping my situation.  He says sure.  I wait.  Nothing… so I ask again… he says he had been drinking and must have “messed it up”.  Ok.. how difficult is it to share a link?

So he finally posts the link and makes a short comment… and I thank him on his FB page – cuz I am Truly grateful.  His sister pipes up that she was waiting for the punchline and I reply – Very nicely – that there is no punch line, I wish there was.  Truthfully – Very Nicely.  No reason to be rude.

Suddenly the comment and link is removed, then I am blocked from his page and my Friend request ignored.  Without my saying another word.

What.The.Heck?

So… I guess it’s true when they say

you just can’t teach an old dog

new tricks

and if you run across an old dog

be careful where you step

cuz if it ain’t housebroken yet

chances are

it shits anywhere.